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‘My mom told me my father did something really bad… I went numb’: Daughter of Petit family murderer speaks on sixth anniversary of home invasion horror

Alicia Hayes was 15 when her father Steven Hayes and accomplice Joshua Komiserjevsky murdered a mother and her two daughters in Connecticut
Miss Hayes, now 21 and serving in the U.S. Airforce, said of her father: ‘He was always good to me. That’s what made this so hard for me to comprehend’
Steven Hayes and Komiserjevsky awaiting execution


I can’t even imagine what this young woman must have gone through after finding out her father was this horrific rapist and murderer. She says:

Miss Hayes said that although her parents had divorced when she was young, she would see her father every week and they would go to the movies and get ice-cream. The 21-year-old told People that she was bullied in school following her father’s heinous crimes and that for many years she blamed herself for his actions.


She pauses and carefully chooses her words. “Obviously, the Petit family suffered more than I can imagine, and I would never comparing their loss with mine. But when someone does something like what [my father] did, his family suffers, too. If I could talk to Dr. Petit, I’d tell him that I’m very sorry for what my father did, but I’d also want him to know that I’m not like that.”

This crime riveted the nation and consumed the news for weeks after the horrific story of violence became public. There is no doubt about these two men being the offenders, as they were caught coming out of the burning house after beating the doctor senseless, raping the wife and two daughters, then setting them and the home on fire as they tried to make their escape. If Dr. Petit had not survived the horrific beating they did to him, leaving him for dead, and managed to crawl, though gravely injured, to a neighbor’s house to call police, they might have actually gotten away with the crime. Dr. Petit was so gravely injured that his neighbor did not know who he was for a moment.

Hayes’ younger brother also spoke out against his brother at the time of his brother’s trial.

The younger brother of convicted murderer Steven Hayes recounted in a letter read today in court, how the man now facing a death sentence burned him on the stove and held a gun to his head.

“Steven is what Steven is because he is a coward,” Matthew Hayes wrote in the letter, which was read by a clerk. “As family of this monster we all have to live with this nightmare.”


The ABC article goes on to say that the psychiatrist who interviewed him called him “not a psychopath” but diagnosed him as “anti-social personality disordered.” Which is essentially the same as a psychopath in the opinions of most psychologists and psychiatrists.

An uncle of Komisarjevsky wrote an article in the Huffington Post about how the crime impacted his own life and his children’s lives. It is obvious that this man is not like his nephew Joshua.  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/chris-komisarjevsky/cheshire-murders-movie-hbo_b_3612887.html

While I am over all against the death penalty because of the many people who have been proven innocent of the crimes for which they were sentenced to death, that isn’t the case here. These men are without a doubt guilty of what they were convicted for. If anyone ever deserved to die for their crimes, these men do. Not only for what they did to the Petit family, but for what their crimes did to their own innocent families as well. I’m glad that Alicia Hayes is moving on with her life, but I also doubt that the horror of what her father did, or of his execution (though well deserved) will ever be completely overcome.

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  4 Responses to “Daughter of killer speaks out Alicia Hayes

  1. Joyce, I’ve always tried to consider what the families of the offenders experience, as well as the victims’ families. When someone chooses to murder another human being, it’s a “tragedy” because of the collateral damage – the victims suffering had a final, albeit gruesome, end, but the families members of the victims and killers will live with the crime for the rest of their lives.

    Even when Hayes is executed, this will be a hollow closure – he deserved to forfeit his life for his actions, but this will never “restore” ANYONE involved in this horrific crime. There will be no true closure unless the “collateral” victims make it, themselves.

    Again, I don’t understand anything, anymore. I just don’t. I cannot wrap my head around these types of crimes – brutal, gruesome, and cold-blooded, I cannot imagine how DEVOID of conscience, empathy, and remorse a person has to be to perpetrate such a crime. I really don’t.

    Thank you for this article and the reminder that EVERYONE is a victim, in this case, and so many others.

    • Uh………..I just read my response and it’s full of spelling and grammatical errors. Oh, boy……….and, I speak like this, in person, too! LOL

  2. Yea, Truthy, so do I!!! I cringe when I hear myself speak, my accent is so thick and my voice so nasal! LOL We actually hear ourselves not through our ears, but through our head bones, but when we hear ourselves through our ears, like in a recording it sounds different.

    I’m bad with the typos too, but you know, I’m getting to a point of ‘OH WELL!’ so don’t sweat the small stuff.

    Yes, Parents are dammed (intentionally misspelled so the profanity nanny won’t #### it out. LOL) for what their kids do, and it looks like this young woman was bullied at school because of what her father did. Which of course is totally unacceptable, but it is what kids do to each other especially at that age.

    One of the things I found especially interesting about Hayes was the doctor saying he was NOT a “psychopath” just an “antisocial personality disorder” and actually, he seems to fit the Psychopathic check list developed by Dr. Hare to a “tee” and even IF the other perp had been the “ring leader,” Hayes still actively participated in the crimes.

    The stories told by the younger Hayes brother about him torturing and abusing him when they were kids also goes more to evidence of psychopathy.

  3. Joyce, this is what constantly baffles me: the “professionals” are ALWAYS reluctant to render an accurate assessment if it involves, “psychopath.” We have the predetermined perception of what a “psychopath” is, thanks to all manners of story-telling and media. We simply envision that a “psychopath” HAS to be a wild-eyed, drooling fiend clutching a chainsaw and meat hook. Psychopaths are walking among the living without ANY constraints, and I just don’t understand why the “professionals” are SO hesitant to acknowledge this fact.

    Speech and communicating has become a challenge for me, lately. UGH. :-)

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