Some offenders don’t know enough about how the rest of the world thinks to even tell a “good” lie
I saw this article about North Korea’s soccer team and how they had been apparently caught in a doping scandal, but were claiming that it was really an herbal medication that made them test positive for steroids.
Then when the women’s team lost to the US women’s team, the excuse given for the loss was that the team members had all been struck by lightening and they had decided, heroically, to compete anyway.
I have recently found other articles about the North Korean leader, Kim Jong-II’s, “stories” that made me laugh out loud. In one article, he supposedly played his first round of golf and scored a 38, including five holes-in-one.
One of the things I have noticed about many people who frequently lie, is that their lies are so “off the wall” that no one over three years old would believe a word of them. They will “lie when the truth will fit better” is a saying I’ve heard all my life. This seems to be especially true with psychopaths and other pathological liars.
Dr. Robert Hare, well-known psychopathy researcher, says that psychopaths have difficulty realizing that their lies are unbelievable even when the evidence that they are untrue is literally in front of them. In some way the two sides of their brains can’t connect the evidence in front of their eyes. An example of this are the lies told by Casey Anthony when she led the police to the place she supposedly worked, even going to a cubical, when she knew that she didn’t work for that company, or the lies she told about leaving her daughter with “Zanny the Nanny” when such a person didn’t exist, yet Anthony led the police to the door of the empty apartment with the police in tow.
Not all liars are psychopaths, but all psychopaths are liars. Liars signal that they are not to be trusted, but if you hear a lie that is so outrageous that it makes you laugh out loud, or have the feeling that the person telling it must be “crazy”—look out! You very well may be dealing with a psychopath.
Interestingly enough we would think that law enforcement even the FBI would be able to detect lies being told by offenders, but actually, the truth is that even “experts” don’t do much better than 50/50 at catching lies unless they are so outrageous that a three year old could catch them.
Lying is one of the “red flags” that shows a person is not trustworthy. Now I know that we all tell “white lies” like the answer to the question “Does this dress make my butt look big?” But that is not the kind of lie I am speaking of, but deception for a purpose other than to keep from hurting someone’s feelings.
My son Patrick is a really good liar at times, practiced at it, and doesn’t seem to miss a beat because he has no conscience. My son Andrew is a very poor liar because he has a conscience and gives “too many details” I catch him every time and have since he was a small child. He just isn’t a good or convincing liar.
One of the things I tend to do when I meet someone new and have any kind of interaction with them, business or otherwise, I sort of keep my antenna up for lies. Not even “big” lies, but just inconsistencies in their stories. I no longer give trust to someone, they must earn it by being truthful and trustworthy. If I observe that the person lies to others, I figure they will lie to me. I don’t like doing business or associating with people who are not trustworthy, who do not do what they say they will do.
Lie to me once, shame on you. Lie to me twice, shame on me.