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Apr 252016

It’s almost funny how psychopaths are the givers of “gifts” that just keep on giving us more “gifts.” Gifts of fear, anxiety, pain etc. Patrick has given me a new “gift” by filing a BOGUS complaint against my attorney with the Texas Bar Association.

I guess I was responsible for him finding out about my attorney and that I was indeed protesting his parole. When things are on the internet they are there forever, and my “coming out” and being more open about my protests of his parole release (which has kept him in prison) he or one of his friends googled me and found my attorney’s name.

The details of his bogus complaint aren’t really important, but they made me feel guilty that my attorney who has become a friend as well as an attorney, a man who “gets” what a psychopath is, is having to go through all the hoops to defend himself against this bogus charge.

I have spoken with the attorney who is representing him, and he assures me that my friend and attorney will not be disbarred because of this bogus complaint. I have filed my affidavit attesting to the fact that Patrick is lying through his teeth. If necessary I will go to Texas to testify for my attorney who is a well-respected and honorable man. He specializes in getting inmates released on parole, but he refuses to work for a psychopath, and he has enough sympathy for me that he does the job almost pro bono. He told me in one of our phone conversations, “Your son is a baaaaaad man.” Yep, he got that right.

It’s always stressful preparing for the up coming parole hearing and getting my protest packet prepared. Last time I melted down emotionally and actually had to go back to trauma therapy my fear and anxiety got so bad, but I’m not going to let that happen this time. I’m emotionally prepared to field a great protest because I know that my son is a stone cold killer, without remorse for taking the life of a 17 year old girl just because she ratted him out for stealing her grandfather’s credit card.

Responding  positively, not negatively, to triggers I think comes with practice. When I found out about the complaint to the bar, I “exploded” with anger, but it didn’t last long, a couple of hours of verbal venting, and it was done and over. I was able to “talk myself down” and to start acting, NOT “RE-acting” to the situation.

Realizing how I became negatively triggered by the last parole protest, I have become more aware as I prepare for this one, and am determined to keep myself in check and not be overcome with fear and anxiety about him getting out.

As we are associated with psychopath, we know that time does NOT heal all wounds, but in spite of that we can take care of our own emotions and our own mental health and live a life that is filled with PEACE and not allow them to keep on giving us their negative gifts.






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  3 Responses to “The “giver” that keeps on giving—psychopaths”

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  2. Joyce, you did great, girl. And, Patrick has nothing but time on his hands, hopefully for the rest of his life. Psychopaths are not prone to sit idle and will whip up new and creative ways to destroy another person, even from behind bars.

    So……..you know that what has been alleged is bullshit, and this time around, you were able to sort it out, calm yourself, and find that balance that is so elusive for most people who are dealing with a psychopath in the family.

    Keep moving forward and pat yourself on the back for managing the situation with MUCH more calm and control. Each experience is just another opportunity to learn and practice. That’s all.

    ((((((HUGS)))))) You did great, and your friend and attorney will be just fine. 😀

  3. Well, the bar has not ruled on the thing yet, so bogus or not, you never know how something will play out in a court or in the Bar…I’ll feel better when it is over. I’m hoping that is soon both for my sake and for my attorney’s.

    I guess this is “payment” for me coming out of the closet, and the internet is not “secret” for sure. I assume that Patrick is reading or having someone read every word I say. But at the same time, I have no regrets about coming out of the closet…it has helped me heal and also I think helped others as well.

    I am currently advising several women who are fighting parole for the men who attacked and/or nearly killed them.

    I have no doubt that Patrick will do his darnest to do whatever he can to either have me killed or to injure me in some way. The very reason I want him to stay in prison. If I thought for one minute he had regret, remorse, etc. I’d have no problem with him getting out of prison at some point, but as it is, he needs to die in the prison for the safety of others.

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