A father who survived an alleged murder attempt by his own two sons has refused to criticize them, saying: ‘My boys are my boys and I’ll never abandon them and not support them.’
William Bledsoe, 70, of Ellensburg, Washington, admits the accusations against his twin sons, 25-year-old Caleb and Joshua. ‘Yes, I am the man they tried to kill,’ Bledsoe told ABCNews.com.
The brothers share a home and a business with their father. They are accused of trying to kill him in a house fire, telling arresting officers it was because they find him difficult to live with and work for.
I have no doubt that my son Patrick found me “difficult to live with” because I turned him in to the police for robbing our friend’s business so completely they were out of business for months because all their computers were out as evidence.
It is difficult for me to logically understand how this man stays in denial after the murder attempt yet I do understand, it isn’t logic, it is emotional. I was able to stay in denial pretty much until I saw Patrick was proud of his crime, and then the murder attempt on me and my other two sons was the cherry on top of the cake…I was done with Patrick. But it was more than 20 years after he had started his “life of crime”
While I realize how painful it is to accept that your child(ren) is not the person you raised them to be, to not accept that keeps one from healing. I imagine also that in the early stages of what must be his grief at finding out his sons hated him enough to try to burn him to death, he is still in shock, and maybe disociative as well…unable to completely see the “forest for the trees” where his sons are concerned.
The Bledsoe twins comment that their dad was difficult to live with and work for is trash talk..if they didn’t like living with daddy they could have gotten their own place and if he was so difficult to work for they could have worked somewhere else.. If they didn’t like daddy they could have refused to speak to him or associate with him. Murder is not a healthy option when you don’t like someone. Obviously they didn’t like daddy but they wanted his business and any savings he had. Yet they blame their father’s behavior for what they did and he is accepting that blame.
I hope Mr. Bledsoe can come to terms with what his sons are and move on with his life. While I agree that he should get the bitterness out of his heart….to support these cold blooded would be killers is not, in my opinion, a healthy or a wise choice.
It’s also possible that Mr. Bledsoe was abusive to them as children and that they are trauma bonded to him and, like an abused wife, found it impossible to “leave” so decided to burn daddy to death and then be able to keep the family business for themselves. There are all kinds of ways this could have played out in the drama of the family of origin, and none of them are healthy.