Our courts frequently sentence those convicted of domestic violence or anger management “classes.”
Here is an article from the Huff/Post in which a man who was a repeat offender for domestic violence who struck his girl friend with his “anger management work book” Of course at first glance this appears almost funny.
A man in Spartanburg, S.C., was arrested after allegedly losing his temper and assaulting his girlfriend with an anger management workbook, of all things.
But when you read more or the story, it points out that he was mad at her for “doing things to make him angry knowing he was in anger management class.” Of course he was “blaming HER for his anger which is typical of those who are guilty of domestic violence.
But then, she cuts him with a box cutter and SHE is arrested.
While you might AT FIRST think that she was “just defending herself” I don’t’ see it that way. What I see here is a “gasoline and fire” relationship where BOTH parties are disordered at worst and dysfunctional at best.
“Gasoline and fire” relationships (and they are more frequent than the “system recognizes”) is where two people who are both disordered “hook up” and the FIGHT IS ON! Then the person who is the “loser” in the fight(s) presents themselves as a VICTIM, and then they look for another disordered person to “hook up with” and the fight is on AGAIN…time after time.
Domestic violence is not ALWAYS a one way street with an “innocent victim” and a “horrible abuser” but is one in which both parties try to justify their violence toward their partner or their children. God help those children born to such unions, they don’t’ stand a chance. Since we know that genetics as well as environment both play a part in producing disordered (and/or violent) people, children born in and raised in such violent environments have two strikes against them growing up and when they reach adulthood.
I worked at a mental health facility in the community that provided medication and services to the chronically mentally ill in the community and the facility also provided “anger management” classes for domestic abusers. One of the judges in our area would order anger management classes for any case in which domestic violence was involved. One of the attendees said to the therapist who was teaching it that “any time a woman’s mascara runs the judge sentences the husband to anger management classes.”