Heartbroken dad: My son is a murderer
Gerhard Jansen van Vuuren talks about his son, who allegedly stabbed his girlfriend Andrea Venter to death before trying to kill himself. Amanda Roestoff, Beeld
Johannesburg – The father of an “obsessed” man who allegedly killed his girlfriend in front of a guard at her security complex, has described his son as a murderer.
“I feel like I have lost everything,” said Gerhard Jansen van Vuuren, 58, from Koster in the North West province, on Wednesday.
His daughter committed suicide at the age of 19 and his grandson committed suicide a week ago.
His son Gerhard jnr, 30, allegedly killed Andrea Venter, 25, a former Rustenburg auditor, with a pocket knife.
Gerhard jnr apparently attacked Venter in her home in the Sibaya Sands complex in Fourways, Johannesburg on Monday morning, hitting her in the face with a knuckle duster and then stabbing her with a pocket knife in front of a security guard.
“He is a murderer in my eyes. He committed a murder. I still love him. He’s my child.”
This man’s story is the story of most of the parents of adult children (or even young children) who become killers. While this young man seems to have many of the traits of a psychopath, with the violence and violent attachment he seemed to display toward this young woman who he eventually killed, she also displays the trauma bonding to her killer that wouldn’t let her disconnect from him and stay away from him.
There is a pattern here in the behavior of both the killer and the victim. I wish I could reach out to each person who is bonded to violent partners or who have children who are violent and pour this story into their minds…this and thousands of stories just like it..so that they would get away from these violent attachments which will only lead to heart break and death.