Here in Arkansas there was a news article about a large black woman who had multiple pen pals, usually older men, and she would send them photos of “hot chicks” taken from magazines and tell these older men that was her and that she only had a short time to serve and she wanted to be with them when she got out. Please send money to her “attorney” so she could be out and be with them sooner. Much like the Nigerian men who scam vulnerable men they troll for on the Internet, and how women are scammed by “soldiers” who want to be with them. The real message is “SEND MONEY” and the news article here in Arkansas said this woman was raking in as much as $50,000.00 per year from the vulnerable men she was conning.
Jeffrey Dahmer had 14 such pen pals at the time of his death according to a book written about him by a minister who he had also in my opinion conned just for attention if nothing else. Psychopaths get a great deal of satisfaction in my opinion just pulling the con, putting one over on the victim, even if it isn’t for money or other financial gain.
My son Patrick of course conned me, and continues to con my mother for money for commissary, craft shop and for the satisfaction of pulling the wool over someone’s eyes.
I had a neighbor down the road from me who was a widower, age 80+, who picked up an alcoholic drug addicted ex convict in a parking lot and “fell in love with” her. She would show up at the first of the month when he got his social security check and though she only stayed as long as the money lasted, and left him for two-thirds of the month without food, water or telephone, he was unable to detach from this woman even after during an altercation with her he fell or was pushed and landed in the hospital with a broken neck.
Psychologists and geriatric care specialists know that the “first thing to go” in the elderly is their judgment and their ability to tell when they are being conned. This makes them especially vulnerable to being conned and manipulated.
My neighbor is now in a locked psychiatric hospital where he is protected from both this woman and from himself. It is unfortunate, but there was nothing his daughter or anyone else could do to protect him until he reached a point that his very life was in danger.
A while back I was contacted here at Family Arrested by a man who posted on “My story” about his problems with being prosecuted for a “terroristic threat” he made on face book. I advised him that he should go to Prison Talk web site to see if they had any possible help for his problem with being prosecuted. He mentioned he was on prison talk and had been for some time. I looked him up there and found that yes, indeed, he was posting there and that he claimed he had a “relationship” with a convicted murderer and that the woman was the person he was “waiting for.” At the bottom of his post was a quote about a death row inmate named Darlie Routier and she is convicted of stabbing her two children to death. She was married at the time and her husband didn’t divorce her until 2011. The man named contacted me and stated that he did not write this and that his Prison Talk account had been hacked.
It really doesn’t matter whether “Doug” is the man who has this relationship with any death row inmate, there are many many people who have “romantic relationships” formed by being “pen pals” with inmates, even such famous serial killers as Charlie Manson and Jeffrey Dahmer. The point is that PEOPLE do form these attachments via mail and prison visits. I’m very sorry if Doug has been hacked,, there are all kinds of creeps on the Internet.
While a con person who lures and hooks an internet victim on line on a dating site or other site, pretending to be someone they are not….a war hero or some other person, or just a “cat fish” for the fun of it http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=catfish the people who become pen pals with and develop a romantic relationship with an inmate know that the inmate IS an inmate, so they don’t go into it completely blind.
Why do they become hooked though? What is it about the pen pal relationship that becomes so “real” to these people that they lay all “common sense” aside and become enmeshed with this person?
I wish I knew the answer, but my best guess is the “love bomb” that all con men and cults use to lure the victim into their web. My own son, of course, used my love for him, and uses my mother’s love for him, and her loss of judgment, to con me and her. When the spell he had cast over me was finally broken, I grieved deeply at the “loss” of this supposed relationship which was in truth nothing but a fantasy I had built inside my head that he would get out, live a God-fearing life and we would all “live happily ever after.”
In most of the “pen pal” instances where the person “met” the inmate after they were incarcerated, there was no previous relationship on which to base the romance. Here is a post from the Prison Talk web site thread on people with relationships with people on death row or lifers