The news has been filled lately with recounts of various school shootings, usually by students, and these are very disturbing reports.
What causes some kid to get a gun and go into a school and start killing other students and teachers?
The latest shooting in Texas was a student who had been trying to “connect” with some girl and she spurned his advances. The boy’s father has gone on record as saying his son (who was arrested) was the “real victim” because he had been bullied in school. I feel a great deal of empathy for that father who has “lost” his son just as much as if the bullets he fired had killed him as well as the other students. I also realize that the father is in denial about his son’s actions. Having a kid kill someone else (whether one or many) is I think the most painful emotional situation I have ever been in.
A friend of mine wants to”solve” the gun problem by making it illegal to buy a gun until you are 21. I don’t see how making it illegal to buy a gun at even age 65 would stop these killings. All of the school shooters have obtained guns illegally or stolen them. And there is the fact that LAWS DO NOT MAKE PEOPLE STOP BEHAVIORS it only punishes them after-the-fact.
Murder is already illegal, so is smoking dope, robbery, and on and on, but all of these things continue to be done by people who want to do them. Even though some of these kids who are school shooters don’t care if they get killed themselves, they know they will be “famous” even if they kill themselves or do a suicide by cop.
Adam Lanza, who was one of the school shooters, had been given up as hopeless by all his family except his mother, and she was the first one he killed. I don’t claim to know why Adam did what he did, but for one reason or another his rage just boiled over.
Kids are kids and as long as there are schools there will be some bullying going on, and it is impossible for the school teachers and administrators to stop it entirely. Emotional bullying is going to go on even if they could stop the physical bullying.The book, Lord of the Flies (if you haven’t read this you should) is a word picture of how children can be cruel to each other if there are not adults to teach them manners. But with at least 4% of the general population being junior psychopaths bullying will go on.
Most children who are bullied do NOT go out and kill others. I was a child small for my age and was physically bullied by a classmate in the second grade. I was ashamed of it and did not “tell” either teachers or my parents, and the bullying wasn’t discovered until the bully hit me hard enough to break a bone, Bullying hurts the victim emotionally if not physically, and schools should do as much as they can to protect the vulnerable children who are picked out to be victimized, but I do not believe that is the ONLY reason these kids kill, though it might be some of it.
I don’t believe that any laws passed about guns will stop the slaughter. I wish I was wise enough to know how to engage the shooters BEFORE they kill so that they would not kill. When I saw my own son going toward lawbreaking I tried to find a way to get it through his skull that he was ruining his life. I kept thinking if I could just find the “right words” it would sink in and he would stop his criminal behavior, but there was nothing I could have done because he had decided he was going to do what he wanted to do regardless of the laws of God or man. At that time I had no idea what a psychopath was and I thought that therapy and love could change his path.
Working with adolescents in an in-patient psychological hospital I have some experience with kids who have no conscience, and ones who take delight in breaking the law, but I never saw an adolescent who was actually benefited by even inpatient treatment. Though society and politically correct folks tell us that treatment will save these kids, but unfortunately, too many times these caring adults just seem to think that if we do away with legal guns in the US all these killings will stop and everyone will live happily ever after. Guns don’t pull their triggers, people do. What’s the answer? I do not know, I wish I did.