I used to play a “double solitaire” card game with an aunt of mine called “spite and malice” where if you could not play to help yourself, you could do damage to the other player. It was fun and we always laughed when we would “Spite” the other person.
In life, though, psychopaths and dysfunctional folks in general will do whatever they can to be malicious or to spite you for anything that you have done to defend yourself from their attacks. Sometimes this is called “the smear campaign.”
My son Patrick used his “abusive childhood” any chance he got, even as his “defense” when he was tried for killing Jessica Witt in January of 1992. It didn’t fly then and it doesn’t fly now with anyone that really knows him and is not senile. He uses it in his parole appeals as well. So far that hasn’t worked either.
When you break away from a psychopath it is not unusual for them to stalk you to one extent or another. Patrick has a woman he met on line when he had a smuggled cell phone in prison who cyber stalks me, and sends him copies of what I have posted on this blog. She even e mailed me once and told me that I didn’t know him any more, but SHE knows him because he writes to her. I really had to laugh about that. After she sent him copies of this blog, he sent me a letter telling me that I had “ruined is chances” of getting a good job when he got out of prison by publishing all this on the internet. I sincerely doubt that he would find a “good job” with a record for murder and felony robbery at gun point. But again, like most psychopaths, he blames all his problems on someone else.
Patrick is back up for parole again, and I will know the results between now and November 2019. I of course hired an attorney to fight his parole release. Patrick has never followed the rules of any probation or parole in the past and I don’t expect that he would this time either. In fact, he was on parole when he killed Jessica Witt. The only friends he has are those he made in prison or the “jail house groupie.” Every relative by blood, adoption or marriage that he has wants nothing to do with him. He not only burned all his bridges with family, but dynamited them as well.
Getting away from a psychopath is not always an easy thing to accomplish and NO CONTACT is the best path with them. If for some reason that you must associate with them (joint custody of children or some other legal problem) do not respond, keep your face expressionless, no matter how they try to provoke you. If you respond they win and you lose!
Getting the bitterness out of our hearts is not an easy thing either, but as long as we remain bitter toward them they are “renting” space in our minds and hearts. Jesus says that we must “forgive” but that does NOT mean you have to associate with them or pretend that “nothing happened.” You can also expect that they will heap SPITE AND MALICE on you any way they can.