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  1. Unfortunately, Susan Powell’s husband and in-law’s (the males at least) were creepy. I can relate. The first time I met my future father-in-law, he sat down next to me on a couch and told me a long-winded story about himself, his early days, talking about his first wife and their young children. The story was all about him, being a heroic type (figuring out later that it was all b.s.). Over time, I discovered how dysfunctional this family was, learning (through non-stop hardships) that the son that I married was the most like his dad, differing from his father by not being physically abusive towards me or the children. These people do come across as creepy, realizing in time that something is “off” with them. I’m just sorry that the life Susan Powell deserved to have, she didn’t have because she was married to a selfish, dangerous sociopath.

  2. Bluejay, your intuition was right….as events turned out….and I have also had intuitive dislikes of people who turned out later to be pedophiles, and users and abusers. I didn’t know what particularly that made me dislike these people, but there was “something” that my subconscious picked up on, BUT I DID NOT LISTEN either.

    The “gift of fear” that Gavin DeBeckers talks about in his book by that name is there if we will JUST LISTEN. Instead, many of us tell that gut instinct, that protective instinct, to “shut up” and we don’t heed the warnings.

    I still get fooled by some people, but I don’t stay around them long when I feel that instinct or see that they are acting in a way that warns me they are dishonest in any way.

    Also, if someone warns me about someone else, then I LISTEN to that warning. I have in the past been warned about someone who turned out later to be just exactly what the person warning me told me they were. I thought I knew these people, but sadly I should have listened to the warnings and saved myself a lot of grief.

    Basically I watch for signs of dishonesty, failure to act responsibly, or any other sign that this person is willing to lie, cheat or steal. If they will do these things to others, I figure they will do them to me.

  3. Joyce, this story is so tragic. So many proverbial balls were dropped, gut-feelings dismissed, and enabling obviously dangerous individuals.

    I’ve always ignored my gut-instincts because I was taught that EVERYONE deserved the “benefit of the doubt.” I was led to believe that anyone who “judged” another person without giving them the “benefit of the doubt,” first, was being unkind. Perhaps, Susan Powell was taught those same beliefs.

    A very, very sad and sick series of events, and Social Services and the Family Court systems failed, miserably.

  4. Truthy, you are right, those “everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt” ” FALSE “truths” and so on, that we are taught, are the very things that keep us telling our instincts to “shut up”

    It is only when we realize that those “truths” we are taught are FALSE and that “there is good deep down in everyone” is a lie and so are the rest of those false truths, that we can start to listen to our guts warnings.

    We cannot depend on the social services and the family courts AS YOU WELL KNOW to make good choices, or even rational choices for us. WE MUST PROTECT OURSELVES by getting away from abusive people BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE.

  5. Joyce,

    There are so many lies that I believed. I grew up in the church and believed that I should “be” Jesus to those around me. There was one Jesus and He can act on His own to draw people to him. My purpose is to be me, myself, and I, hopefully, reflecting aspects of Jesus, but I don’t have to “be” Jesus to the world.

  6. Bluejay, Jesus was no “namby pamby” and if you will recall he saw the money changers in the Temple turning it into a cross between a flea market and a cattle market and he made WHIPS out of cord and DROVE THEM OUT. He took ACTION against things that were WRONG.

    So I don’t think (my opinion only here) that Jesus/God intends us to be door mats for others to abuse and wipe their feet on.

    We are told to pray for those who abuse us, and I think doing that actually helps US to cope better and we are told not to “let the sun go down upon your wrath”—and wrath is not just ordinary anger but vengeful, hateful, festering anger–and holding on to that wrath is harmful to US. When against my will I started to pray for my mother and my son Patrick, I actually wrote down the words and read them aloud and I DID NOT MEAN ONE WORD OF THE PRAYERS, and I know God knew that, but funny thing, after a while I DID start to mean them as the wrath and bitterness seeped out of my heart. I forgave them, got that bitterness out of my heart, but I do NOT trust them anymore, just as Joseph tested his brothers and found they had changed, I tested my son and my mother and found that they have NOT changed. So while I can forgve them, I will not trust them again.

  7. I think in this time of crisis in the US with people “sheltering in place” and with kids not in school, financial problems coming up with people out of work it is going to be a VERY DANGEROUS TIME FOR FAMILIES IN WHICH THERE IS ABUSE.

    The extra stress of the closeness physically, the short tempers, etc may make things escalate to the point that there will be blood shed.

    IF you are in such a situation, LISTEN TO YOUR GUT, get your children and get out. ASAP go to a shelter or the police station it is safer than being with an abuser who may be pushed over the edge

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