I just read an amazing article at the blog of wildninja…hers is an amazing blog
This article is quite long, but very very well written and I encourage people to read the entire article, here is a short clip from it. It concerns people who “justify” or ATTEMPT to justify domestic violence by using a short quote from the Bible out of context.
One of the things I have found on my own road to healing is that people who try to justify whatever perverse thing by quoting scripture out of context are not people that can be reasoned with. They use the name of God, Jesus and the words in the Bible, always taken out of context, to justify their own perversity.
Many people reading this have experienced family violence. I grew up in a household that justified certain evils on the basis that those acts were “justified” by Scripture. The household atmosphere my siblings and I experienced as tweens and teens was one of psychological terrorism with splashes of physical violence called “discipline.” The psychological abuse continued into adulthood as demands for us and our spouses to “recognize the proper biblical authorities in our lives” continued.I am not entirely opposed to spanking small children. I was opposed to being an awkward teen girl having welts going down the backs of my thighs that couldn’t be hidden by gym shorts in PE class. I was opposed to the surprise attacks from which my siblings ran away bleeding. Growing up we kids didn’t know that what was happening to us could be construed as abuse. But we knew in our hearts that the “punishment” was often irrational and based on perceived offenses rather than reality. It was mostly about satisfying someone else’s need for control rather than our Heavenly Father wanting us to travel the straight and narrow.This so-called “Christian” Domestic Discipline walks the same narcissistic, misguided line as what we experienced. Christian wives are said to enter into consensual agreements with their husbands to allow the husband to discipline the wife. This means that the husband can inflict hands on punishment as if the wife is a bratty little kid– he can spank her, put her in time out, take away privileges, gag her, and indulge in various other ways of “keeping her in line.”
No person who is a true Christian focuses on abusing and controlling their spouse or their children or any one else for that matter. Jesus said to parents to bring the children up in nurture, and to not provoke your children to wrath ( rage filled anger) and husbands are the head of the house, but to love their wives even as they love themselves….not to dictate and abuse the wife.
I hope you will read Ninja’s article in full…she is such an awesome writer.